EFT Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) is a great way to work on your relationship. EFT couples therapy has been proven to be very effective. It has helped many couples to truly improve their relationship.
I am a firm believer in the power of EFT couples therapy when it comes to improving relationships.
Having needs that go unmet can cause some very strong reactions. EFT couples therapy helps you understand both your own needs and reactions, as well as those of your partner. Recognizing that you are both in pain, the pain of needs that have been neglected for too long, creates an empathic bridge and strengthens your mutual bond. Having the courage to cross this bridge and meet each other makes you more accessible, responsive and engaged to each other.
My approach to EFT couples therapy is hands on and always tailor made to your specific situation. I don’t mind confronting you when necessary, I don’t mind nudging you out of your comfort zone if needed. My interventions will always be respectful, sincere and from my heart. I am committed to do what is required to help you rebuild your relationship.
In therapy, we will focus on identifying and addressing interaction patterns that cause pain and create distance in your relationship. You will learn how to influence and change these patterns. EFT couples therapy is so practical and accessible that many couples make great progress in improving their relationship after just a few sessions.
I do not believe in ‘quick fixes’!
How would you like to work on your relationship?
Some couples believe that applying a ‘quick fix’, or a patch to their relationship will help them along. They want their problems to be solved and they want it to be done now!
As a couples therapist I do not believe in quick fixes. I am not interested in patching up your relationship with stopgaps. I regard patching up a relationship as creating future problems caused by current makeshift solutions. Saving a relationship requires investing in the relationship. It takes time. Saving a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint.
Having said this, it is important to know that I do not work with every couple that approaches me. I only work with couples who commit themselves to the work that needs to be done to effectively rebuild their relationship into a long lasting, loving and happy bond.
EFT Couples Therapy
An effective way to improve your relationship
Reconnecting through EFT couples therapy
There is only one relationship problem: disconnection!
All other problems that you may be experiencing derive from disconnection. So, when working on your relationship it is essential that you learn to, first: re-establish your connection when it has been broken, and second: maintain that connection, especially during difficult moments.
When you are reconnected you are emotionally accessible, responsive and engaged to your partner. After re-establishing the connection, we will identify the negative interaction patterns that hinder your happiness. These patterns usually originate from unmet needs and fears that linger in your relationship. Unmet needs and fears cause partners to behave in ways that do not benefit their relationship.
Being aware of your behaviour and its effects is an important step in breaking the negative interaction patterns. Being aware of your behaviour puts you in charge of your relationship. Why? Because you are now able to consciously choose different behaviour, that will affect your relationship positively. This is the start of new, healthier, more loving interaction patterns.
My EFT couples therapy plans
Having a loving relationship is about learning and honing a set of relationship skills that enable you to connect, communicate, and grow together. Your relationship will thrive if both you and your partner commit to this learning process.
Couples therapy is an excellent setting where you learn the necessary relationship skills and experiment with putting them into practice. It provides you with the guidance needed to build and maintain a strong, healthy relationship.
I offer two EFT couples therapy plans:
- The Core Couples Therapy Plan, and
- the Advanced Couples Therapy Plan.
The Core Couples Therapy Plan
The Core Couples Therapy Plan is a program specifically designed for couples who are at the start of their journey together or those who feel they lack essential relationship skills. This plan is perfect for couples who want to learn to establish strong, healthy patterns in their relationship and navigate the challenges that come with being in a committed relationship.
Over the course of this plan, I will guide you to develop and enhance key relationship skills such as effective communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intimacy. During sessions, we will create a safe and supportive environment where you can learn to explore and address common challenges, understand your own and each other’s needs, establish healthy boundaries, and build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
The Core Couples Therapy Plan, requires about a year of your dedication to learn essential relationship skills and to put them into practice.
This comprehensive plan includes:
- 12 engaging sessions
- 1 dedicated aftercare session
- Each session is a minimum of 90 minutes, ensuring ample time for meaningful progress
The Advanced Couples Therapy Plan
The Advanced Couples Therapy plan is ideal for couples who have already established a solid foundation in their relationship. They are now looking to deepen their connection and refine their relationship skills.
This comprehensive plan offers intensive sessions tailored to help you strengthen your bond, overcome persistent difficulties, and achieve a more fulfilling relationship that is able to stand the test of life’s challenges. In each session, we will work on advanced communication techniques, conflict resolution strategies, and enhancing emotional intimacy. I will guide you in exploring your interaction patterns, addressing unresolved issues, and learning how to navigate the nuances of a long-term relationship.
The Advanced Couples Therapy Plan requires about half a year of your dedication to rekindle and enhance the value of your relationship.
This comprehensive plan includes:
- 6 insightful sessions
- 1 dedicated aftercare session
- Each session is a minimum of 90 minutes, ensuring ample time for meaningful progress
What is the difference between the plans?
Understanding the right path for your relationship is key to making meaningful progress. Here is how the Core Couples Therapy Plan differs from the Advanced Couples Therapy Plan:
Core Couples Therapy Plan
This plan is ideal for couples who need to develop fundamental relationship skills. It’s perfect if:
- Your relationship has been neglected for a long time and is currently in a state of disrepair.
- You feel more like roommates than partners, and there’s a risk of burnout if nothing changes.
- You’re a young couple eager to learn the essential skills for a strong and healthy relationship right from the start.
Advanced Couples Therapy Plan
This plan suits couples who have weathered life’s storms together but feel the spark is fading. It’s for you if:
- Your relationship is generally stable, but the joy and excitement are slowly diminishing.
- You know your relationship is good, but you believe it can be even better.
- You’re ready to challenge yourselves to reach new heights in your partnership.
How do we get started?
If you are interested in EFT couples therapy and you are a committed couple, you should first schedule an appointment for an introductory session in my online calendar. This first meeting gives us the chance to get to know each other in a non-binding way and to determine whether we ‘click’ or not. During this meeting I will also further explain my approach and answer all questions you may have.
Please know that before we can start the following conditions apply. Whatever the state of your relationship is at this moment, it must be free from:
- Domestic abuse or violence
- (Substance) abuse or addiction
- An ongoing affair (Affair Recovery Therapy may be more suitable in this case)
Still hesitating?
So, would you like to work on improving your relationship by means EFT therapy, but are you still hesitating? Well, don’t be alarmed. You are not the first couple that long for a more robust and loving relationship but still have some cold feet. This is normal and OK. Follow this link for some ideas on how to deal with hestitation…